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    The best part of this thread is when people drop by to say they are doing better.

    The world has enough challenges during these times that I'll take any smile I can; even if its just from a stranger on the Internet.

    I was worried about you, BK. Anytime someone feels cut off and alone, it kills me a little inside. Its a horrible place to be and I can empathize with it on a lot of levels. I mayself don't have to live with autism, my sexuality being different, my children doing what Baldrik's son has done, etc..... but I do know what its like to feel alone with my own thoughts hurting me.

    Anytime someone beat that feeling, it should be a victory. Believe me, I've seen how crushing it is when someone loses that fight. For me, that is all the reason more to lift someone's win up and cheer.


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    Always good to see people checking in so thanks for that BK.

    Good news is my son's aggressiveness has been diminishing thanks to stop specialist intervention. We're still on the list for a medic so we can get him on melatonin to keep him on an even keel, but some of the techniques he's been given are working slowly. It hasn't stopped him being defiant and he is helping himself to stuff that isn't his a lot more, but we can't win them all can't we?
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    You can't win them all, but incremental improvement is still improvement. As a parent, I get the rush to defend it, but what you said is reality.
    I wish it was as easy as flipping a switch, taking the right medication, or seeing the right therapist a few times. It doesn't work that way though.

    It takes time and sustained effort. And that's tiring for everyone; especially a child struggling with his own impulse control.
    So perfection is an expectation of idealist. Everyone I know on the ground level of a serious behavioral or mental health issue knows it.

    It's why addiction isn't a choice, sexuality isn't a choice,depression, anxiety, bi-polar disorder. Etc.... Man. I wish it wasn't the daily journey it is. Lord knows, Ive reached my breaking point many a day here and none of it was my or my loved ones choices. I will say we have weathered them together. As as much as it breaks my heart to see my oldest struggle. I'm also seeing a lot of strength. I see frustration and exhaustion too many days, but I've walked that road and understand why that is.
    So celebrate those moments of peace. I wait for the magic moment, but until it arrives appreciate the good moments you find anf pray they find a way to settle permanently.


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    Been struggling with some home conflict. I'm going to Florida for a job interview all next week, and I'm really excited but also nervous about it. It's a perfect job for my career, it pays great, and it has great benefits. If I get it, I am 100% taking it. The problem is, right now I live with my 68 year old grandmother and her 88 year old mother. My grandmother is super attached, and has some serious empty nest syndrome. She is not in support of me taking this job at all, and won't even talk rationally to me about it.

    She just thinks I'm abandoning her and going to Florida. Her reasons for why I shouldn't take it are pretty petty, such as "You don't even like the south, or the beach, or hot weather" which is true but also has nothing to do with me taking a job for my career. Then she threw a "I haven't asked you for one thing in 24 years but not to do this and you don't care" bullshit. I tried even explaining I wouldn't be in Florida for ever, I plan to do this job for about 4 years get the experience and the move onto something even bigger. But she was all "I might not even be alive in four years".

    She's got issues with her daughter who moved away years ago and now they don't talk or have a very stable relationship, and that tension is pretty high at the moment so it's probably leaking into this as well, but I don't think it's fair at all for her to want me to hold down my career just to stay with her and keep her company. That's not how the parent-child dynamic should work, and it's not boo on me if I want to move away for my career when I'm 24 and she's a 68 year old grandmother. She has to realize that it's a lose lose situation for her, because if I were to turn down this job and stay for her, I'd be unhappy and probably end up resenting her for it. It's also become really borderline manipulative where she's threatened to stop paying for my phone or my car insurance if I do it. Which, to me I don't care about. I can pay for that stuff by myself and probably will once I get this job, but I don't like the fact that she's using it as some sort of tool to hang over my head. I'm also afraid she'll try and use my car against me as well. She helped me buy my car a little over a year ago, I put in about $7000 and she put in about $12000, but we kept the car in her name only to keep insurance rates down. My name is on the insurance card as a drive, but for some reason if I own the car the rates go higher. But legally I suppose she owns the car, and it'd be a very difficult legal battle for me to prove I own it especially if I'm in Florida and this all takes place in PA. I don't think she'd really go as far as to legally try and take my car away, if she did I'd honestly just write her out of my life at that point because there's no salvaging that, but I'm pretty sure she's all bark there.

    She's trying to use the Coronavirus pandemic as a big argument point. How Florida is really bad right now pandemic wise, and for me to fly down there and stay a week for my interviews is crazy and reckless. But here's the thing, I was talking about moving into an apartment just thirty minutes away, and she was the same way as she is now saying "That's stupid, how are you going to afford that?". Well now that I've got a job lined up where I can totally afford it, the narrative changes.

    I am striving to be independent. I don't want to live with my two grandmothers at age 24. It's nice having my laundry done and getting meals cooked for me sure, but I want to do that stuff on my own. Live in my own apartment, etc. Doing so is a really big scary leap, and her lack of support is only making it harder for me. She's trying to make it out like I'm the selfish one here for moving so far away from her, but I don't think that's fair at all.

    Real talk, I am not good with relationships. I don't know if it's an autism thing, or if it's a schizoid thing, or if it's just a result from some serious attachment issues. I'm undiagnosed/self diagnosed on all. Obviously the fact that I live with my Grandmother in the first place hints that my parents aren't really in the picture here. She's taken care of me since I was a baby, but officially had custody of me at around 9 years old. I was really attached to her before that, but after she got custody and I started hitting that middle school age, I really became withdrawn from any sort of emotionally attachment. She's probably the closest, but I'm not emotionally attached to truly anyone. I feel like I could easily severe any relationship if I had to and be fine. That definitely is a defense mechanism to trauma and abandonment for sure, but that's simply the case. But I do have respect for my Grandmother and everything she's done. But I won't put her before me, not when it comes to my career. My biggest goal right now is to get a steady well paying job that fits my career, so then I can then adopt a child out of foster care. I won't put anything or anyone over those two goals.

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Your Grandmother actually sounds like mine with the volume turned up. You do you Sully, if you don't do what you feel is best you'll only live in resentment, which is no healthier than what she's promoting. She's just scared of change and losing more family contact, especially one she's close to. Take the interview, reassure her the best you can and move forward with your life.

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    Sounds like a lot going on Sulley. I will echo Dave here, do what you need to do for you. This is an opportunity for you to achieve what you want to achieve, and eventually you will also make someone else's life better.
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    Completely agree with Dave and Baldrick here, Sulley. You have to do what is best for you, and reassuring her that this is for the best and it isn’t forever is the best way to handle it and also to manage her expectations. It sounds to me that threatening to take your car away is just a gambit to try and make you want to stay, but if she does care about you (and it seems like she really does), then I doubt she’d actually go through with it. I had a similar thing with my mum when I moved out. It’s a natural thing and over time she will come around and realise what is best for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Postman Dave View Post
    Your Grandmother actually sounds like mine with the volume turned up. You do you Sully, if you don't do what you feel is best you'll only live in resentment, which is no healthier than what she's promoting. She's just scared of change and losing more family contact, especially one she's close to. Take the interview, reassure her the best you can and move forward with your life.

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    Sounds like a lot going on Sulley. I will echo Dave here, do what you need to do for you. This is an opportunity for you to achieve what you want to achieve, and eventually you will also make someone else's life better.
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    Completely agree with Dave and Baldrick here, Sulley. You have to do what is best for you, and reassuring her that this is for the best and it isn’t forever is the best way to handle it and also to manage her expectations. It sounds to me that threatening to take your car away is just a gambit to try and make you want to stay, but if she does care about you (and it seems like she really does), then I doubt she’d actually go through with it. I had a similar thing with my mum when I moved out. It’s a natural thing and over time she will come around and realise what is best for you.
    Thank you guys.

    She actually called me on my way to work and we finally talked about it. I called her out and thinking I'd be like her daughter and was spot on, imagine that. She obviously still doesn't want me to go but she's more supportive about it, and wanted to come with me next week. I won't let her do that because it's an unnecessary risk and my dad would be pissed at me if I let her lol, but it's gotten better. I imagine like y'all said it will more over time.

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    hey everyone , sorry i haven't been around so much am doing good am 8months self harm free its goes into being 9 months in October, things are going well but i haven't eating so well , my appointment about the testosterone was put back a month due to the fact my appointment for the 20 of September was a Sunday this year but the appointment 20th September next year there was an admin Error so my new appointment is 12 October this year so hopefully it goes ok , my mental health has been mostly ok, over the last few days i have been having flashbacks etc but am dealing with it ok . i just have to be mindful and dont let my emotions take over so much . but i have a handle on it

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    Hey guys.

    I think i need help. I feel like a worthless piece of shit everyday. Everything is just boring and rage-inducing to me, and i feel like days just never ends. I often think about rotten this world is, and how much it pisses me off that i have no control, no influence over anything, that i'm not born rich, talented and powerful. I feel like there is no purpose in my life, that there is no reason for me to exist. I'm too scared to kill myself, however, cause i always think about how my girlfriend would react. Yet, everytime i go to sleep, i think of walking an endless desert, waiting to die.

    I'm tired and don't care about anything anymore. I wanna just go in the wild and live as a hermit and die.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kinnikuniverse View Post
    Hey guys.

    I think i need help. I feel like a worthless piece of shit everyday. Everything is just boring and rage-inducing to me, and i feel like days just never ends. I often think about rotten this world is, and how much it pisses me off that i have no control, no influence over anything, that i'm not born rich, talented and powerful. I feel like there is no purpose in my life, that there is no reason for me to exist. I'm too scared to kill myself, however, cause i always think about how my girlfriend would react. Yet, everytime i go to sleep, i think of walking an endless desert, waiting to die.

    I'm tired and don't care about anything anymore. I wanna just go in the wild and live as a hermit and die.
    Hey man. Thanks for sharing. I don't think these thoughts are strange or weird, and I feel like everyone goes through stages like this sometimes. The fact that you don't have a plan to make some of these thoughts real is a good sign and a sign that everything is okay. People can experience dark thoughts, but it's how we overcome them that defines us.

    I generally have a Jungian approach to these sorts of things in that, something in your life is causing you to feel this way. You may not be able to pinpoint what, but it's evolutionarily engrained in our brains. Like a check engine light almost in cars. Your check engine light is on, and something is wrong. You don't know what but the light is on and the car is making funny sounds. So you have two options. Option one is to take it to a mechanic and he can help tell you what is wrong or how to fix it. Or you can open up the hood and analyze it yourself. Sometimes both work.

    In this analogy the mechanic would be a professional who's job it is to help with these sort of normal everyday things that everyone goes through at some point, you know like a therapist or a counselor. Sometimes it can even be a close friend if you have one available. I personally think therapists should be like dentists or an eye doctor. I think everyone should have monthly or bi monthly checkups. We're a ways off from that still.

    The other option in the analogy was check under the hood, which is where my Carl Jung approach comes in. Find out what's causing the issue in your car and fix It. Some people have a toxic person in their life, and they need to get rid of them to fix their car. Others maybe it's their job or their standing in life and they feel stuck in a rut. And some have past trauma they need to confront and overcome. Everyone is different.

    But pay attention to that check engine light. Those feelings. They're there for a reason, to tell you something needs fixed. I hope you can work on finding out the issue, and we'll be here to talk and help at any time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Evil Scotsman View Post
    hey everyone , sorry i haven't been around so much am doing good am 8months self harm free its goes into being 9 months in October, things are going well but i haven't eating so well , my appointment about the testosterone was put back a month due to the fact my appointment for the 20 of September was a Sunday this year but the appointment 20th September next year there was an admin Error so my new appointment is 12 October this year so hopefully it goes ok , my mental health has been mostly ok, over the last few days i have been having flashbacks etc but am dealing with it ok . i just have to be mindful and dont let my emotions take over so much . but i have a handle on it
    Hey Scotsman,

    Glad to hear from you and that things are going okay. 8 months without self harm is a solid milestone and it's very happy to hear. Hope things get sorted with your testosterone and appointments. It can be crazy for that kind of stuff right now with the pandemic. It's awesome to see so many strong people overcome their challenges when the current times are at their most difficult.

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    Scotsman...8 months is amazing, well done, hears to many more months the same way. I hope you get to keep your next appointment too!

    As for the feelings mentioned here, feeling that low is a sign of something being up. It may not be an obvious thing either so it does need exploring. Explore it in whichever way you feel comfortable however the moment you start making some kind of suicide plan is the time you need to be seen by a Doctor.

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    I feel like my biggest problem is overstimulation and being mad that not everything is gonna go like i want it to.

    For the first problem, It's like i'm addicted to stimulation of any kind. I have constant headdaches and i feel the urge to get on my phone or play games or eat all the time, to the point of not even wanting to sleep anymore because i wanna get stimulated. This shit's killing me, man.

    The second part is because, throghout my entire life, i thought it was gonna go like in shonen manga, where i'll end up being the best there is, that i was gonna be an untouchable rock star and eberything will be easy because everybody told me that i'm good. Yeah, i was an idiot. The delusion started when i found out that not only was i never gonna graduate from school, but i actually suck at everything i do.

    Since then, i've been feeling like shit ever since. Not even having a job,a house, a full fridge every week and a girlfriend for 5 years running makes me feel truly satisfied. What's the point in trying to be happy when you know that a kid like Mbappé already won the world cup and is a millionaire at 18 years old while, at the same age, i was struggling with my grades and wasting time getting good at fighting games? What's the point of continuing to live when everything about my life is pointless? If only reincarnation was real...or a death note or magic, and i would be its only user...pff, what am i even saying? I should just shut up and...i dunno what to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kinnikuniverse View Post
    I feel like my biggest problem is overstimulation and being mad that not everything is gonna go like i want it to.

    For the first problem, It's like i'm addicted to stimulation of any kind. I have constant headdaches and i feel the urge to get on my phone or play games or eat all the time, to the point of not even wanting to sleep anymore because i wanna get stimulated. This shit's killing me, man.

    The second part is because, throghout my entire life, i thought it was gonna go like in shonen manga, where i'll end up being the best there is, that i was gonna be an untouchable rock star and eberything will be easy because everybody told me that i'm good. Yeah, i was an idiot. The delusion started when i found out that not only was i never gonna graduate from school, but i actually suck at everything i do.

    Since then, i've been feeling like shit ever since. Not even having a job,a house, a full fridge every week and a girlfriend for 5 years running makes me feel truly satisfied. What's the point in trying to be happy when you know that a kid like Mbappé already won the world cup and is a millionaire at 18 years old while, at the same age, i was struggling with my grades and wasting time getting good at fighting games? What's the point of continuing to live when everything about my life is pointless? If only reincarnation was real...or a death note or magic, and i would be its only user...pff, what am i even saying? I should just shut up and...i dunno what to do.
    You can't compare yourself to Mbappe, especially when it comes to happiness. Every single celebrity will tell you that wealth and fame and success has nothing to do with happiness. We've seen so many celebrities suffer from depression despite having it all.

    The stimulation stuff is interesting. I feel like the current youthful generation in general is having a major issue with stimulation. It's leaked in to older generations too. Even my grandmother is on her phone all day at this point. My Great Grandmother doesn't have a cellphone, but you bet she's always got the TV on.

    Maybe you need to try some mindfulness techniques. Mindfulness is a mediation technique where you basically just focus on the moment. The here and now. Sit and just focus on absolutely nothing. Just the present, what you see. I like to do it outside, like in a park or even just in your front yard. Stare at the clouds and the sky, and don't let any other thoughts creep into your head. It sounds tough, but the more you practice it the easier it'll come.

    Check out the link I'm pasting below for a pretty simple guide on what it is and how to do it. I think it'll help honestly. And other than that, again I suggest reaching out to a professional as well and letting them help as well.

    https://www.mindful.org/meditation/m...tting-started/

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    The kids great nan has now succumed to a very rare and aggressive form of cancer, so now it's dealing with grief as well as everything else. Let's hope these services I can contact will be able to help when I contact them tomorrow.
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    The boy got sent home from school today following an emotional breakdown...no shit. He's got these issues to cotend with then a bereavement on top? As parents we wanted him to stay home but he was so defiant, it was less stress for him to allow him to go to school then forcing him to stay home. He's now got to stay home until Monday for his own sake...yeah try telling a kid who is adamant he is going to school he isn't allowed because he needs to take time to process etc.....seriously some people really do amaze me with their blindness to the obvious.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Baldrick View Post
    The boy got sent home from school today following an emotional breakdown...no shit. He's got these issues to cotend with then a bereavement on top? As parents we wanted him to stay home but he was so defiant, it was less stress for him to allow him to go to school then forcing him to stay home. He's now got to stay home until Monday for his own sake...yeah try telling a kid who is adamant he is going to school he isn't allowed because he needs to take time to process etc.....seriously some people really do amaze me with their blindness to the obvious.
    Is that still the same shitty school that sounds totally untrained and unadaptable to kids on the spectrum?

    Yeah it's a tough call with that situation on whether to send him or not. Sounds like you did what he wanted to do, which is probably the best thing to follow for the moment.

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    Is that still the same shitty school that sounds totally untrained and unadaptable to kids on the spectrum?

    Yeah it's a tough call with that situation on whether to send him or not. Sounds like you did what he wanted to do, which is probably the best thing to follow for the moment.
    It may be the same school, but they are doing what they can for him, which is more that what I can say for his previous school. They are doing as much as they can to adapt his timetable etc to ensure he can stay in school full time and still achieve. Today was an emotional breakdown, nothing more but for safety during this whole Covid thing they had little choice but to request him to leave the premises. From what they have said this is more a compassionate thing as he can't cope given the bereavement but protocol states it needs to be classed as a "suspension" which is crazy.

    He also lost the plot this evening as he wasn't allowed his mobile phone as he's been caught out doing stuff he knows he's not allowed to do (In part my fault as i've not changed his google settings following him turning 13 a couple of days ago) so he's been accessing all kinds of games etc. It's only for one evening he isn't allowed the access so I can sort it but he went into pretty much a full on meltdown and I had no choice but to remove myself from the situation.

    We're due to undertake Non Violence Resistance training shortly and that is supposed to be a good course to do. If you're interested in getting the jist of what it's all about it's at the following link:

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    I haven't been here for a while but felt it might have been time.

    Yesterday morning I was awoken with the news that my aunt lost her battle with cancer during the night, passing peacefully in her sleep.

    I'm fairly heartbroken at the moment, and just not in a good place mentally. It hurts to have lost her, but even worse is the feeling of emotional detachment from my own personal depression during COVID season in which I've lost my job, moved into a new place, have lost friends over political crap, and last week attended my (different, I have like 8) aunt's brother-in-law's funeral. I've had at least four different mental breakdowns at work in the last month due to working nearly everyday around people who either don't care for others' health, barely understand common sense, or annoy the fuck out of me.

    In a nutshell, I hate 2020 and it has made me feel worse about myself the longer it has gone on.

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