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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Quote Originally Posted by Grim View Post
    Welp.

    So I found out I might be mildly autistic. So that's something to wrap my head around.

    I've also been looking to see a therapist to get myself diagnosed for potential social anxiety or depression, so that's fun too.
    I've speculated whether I have ASD as well due to some social things I do as well as my sensory processing disorder.

    However, I'd recommend fully going out and getting a more advanced diagnosis. ASD has been overly diagnosed over the last 10 years ago in some cases where it's not needed, especially with adults.

    The fact of the matter is, it is a spectrum. So everyone has some autistic traits. You could ask anyone how autistic they think they are on a scale of 1 to 10. I'd probably give myself a 4 or a 6. Some people might be a 1 or a 10.

    But an ASD diagnosis isn't a bad thing. I think you should wear it as a badge. People with autism are some of the smartest in the world. I almost want to congratulate you on the diagnosis. Hopefully it gives you a lot of clarity and self understanding.

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Quote Originally Posted by Sully View Post
    I've speculated whether I have ASD as well due to some social things I do as well as my sensory processing disorder.

    However, I'd recommend fully going out and getting a more advanced diagnosis. ASD has been overly diagnosed over the last 10 years ago in some cases where it's not needed, especially with adults.

    The fact of the matter is, it is a spectrum. So everyone has some autistic traits. You could ask anyone how autistic they think they are on a scale of 1 to 10. I'd probably give myself a 4 or a 6. Some people might be a 1 or a 10.

    But an ASD diagnosis isn't a bad thing. I think you should wear it as a badge. People with autism are some of the smartest in the world. I almost want to congratulate you on the diagnosis. Hopefully it gives you a lot of clarity and self understanding.
    Definitely agree with all this.

    I remember being embarrassed and upset with my diagnosis(es) as a kid and teen, and thinking it was a load of BS and just didn't get it. Now a days, I realize my quirks and sensory things are really just part of who I am, and the diagnosis was pretty spot on. I know it's got some things that make things a bit rougher for me, but I figure everyone has something that works as a disadvantage to them. Plus, like you said, some of the smartest people in the world have autism. It's all about learning how to cope with things and use them to your advantage, even.
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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Quote Originally Posted by Sully View Post
    I've speculated whether I have ASD as well due to some social things I do as well as my sensory processing disorder.

    However, I'd recommend fully going out and getting a more advanced diagnosis. ASD has been overly diagnosed over the last 10 years ago in some cases where it's not needed, especially with adults.

    The fact of the matter is, it is a spectrum. So everyone has some autistic traits. You could ask anyone how autistic they think they are on a scale of 1 to 10. I'd probably give myself a 4 or a 6. Some people might be a 1 or a 10.

    But an ASD diagnosis isn't a bad thing. I think you should wear it as a badge. People with autism are some of the smartest in the world. I almost want to congratulate you on the diagnosis. Hopefully it gives you a lot of clarity and self understanding.
    It's funny, I've thought about this myself. Like I joke with my friends that as a kid I was just the weird kid. If I were growing up today, I'd probably be called autistic.

    Realistically, I don't think I am. Probably more OCD/ODD, with random bouts of anxiety.

    I should seek therapy, so I applaud those who have. Like I'm not far off from 40, and can barely hold a girlfriend longer than 3 months before I just turn into an asshole. I just ghosted a girl after 3 dates, that my friends set me up with because she bored me, which has turned me into the enemy... but in that ODD way I justify it with, "they knew what they were getting into."

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Quote Originally Posted by Sully View Post
    I've speculated whether I have ASD as well due to some social things I do as well as my sensory processing disorder.

    However, I'd recommend fully going out and getting a more advanced diagnosis. ASD has been overly diagnosed over the last 10 years ago in some cases where it's not needed, especially with adults.

    The fact of the matter is, it is a spectrum. So everyone has some autistic traits. You could ask anyone how autistic they think they are on a scale of 1 to 10. I'd probably give myself a 4 or a 6. Some people might be a 1 or a 10.

    But an ASD diagnosis isn't a bad thing. I think you should wear it as a badge. People with autism are some of the smartest in the world. I almost want to congratulate you on the diagnosis. Hopefully it gives you a lot of clarity and self understanding.
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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Anyone ever get frustrated with people doubling down on their wrongdoings? Making excuses and saying it was deserved and okay? It kinda hurts the mind the amount of gaslighting they do to me.

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Quote Originally Posted by Grim View Post
    Anyone ever get frustrated with people doubling down on their wrongdoings? Making excuses and saying it was deserved and okay? It kinda hurts the mind the amount of gaslighting they do to me.
    It goes back to the beginning of time where people can't take accountability, and the rest pretend bad things don't happen so they victim blame instead.

    For a long time in the US, domestic abuse was this way. A taboo topic that was shoved under the carpet. Child abuse also was, specifically child sexual abuse. Sigmund Freud attempted to shine light on the child sexual abuse problem when he studied hysteria, but he got so much backlash he had to retract his theories and come up with the ridiculous Oedipus theory instead.

    In the current political climate, victim blaming seems to again be reading it's ugly head. When will we ever start holding the perpetrators accountable and not pretending like no crime happened?

    Don't let these people get you down man.

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Oh wow.

    Just found out today a family friend committed suicide by gun. He was 37, had a kid starting 6th grade this month, and was a serviceman.

    Absolutely awful and it really hurts to hear about that, especially since my mother had to take the call and be on scene after it happened. She was visibly shaken after she came home so I knew something was wrong. Nothing like this I would have imagined.

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    So.....on the too much info side of things. I've been struggling since retirement.

    I've told everyone here I was medically retired, but like most things....there was a little more to it. My body is a wreck. No getting around it. I've suffered from chronic pain for about 12 years now, but it was getting much much worse near the end of my Army career. I was pushing harder to get better and being in my mid-40s it just wasn't going to happen. I needed rest and surgery and the Army wasn't going to allow a Soldier that close to retire that much time. If a Soldier can't deploy, he can't do his job. So....after almost 15 years of serving, I was medically retired.

    Serving as a journalist during the Iraq War put me in a lot of dangerous situations. All told, I was involved in about 15 IED incidents where the vehicle I was in ran over one of those damn things. Most didn't "hurt" me seriously. Honestly, I'd say only 2 (maybe 3) really rung my bell or left me unable to move. The accumilation, however, did start having effects. My left side, particulary my shoulder and foot, have all had major surgeries and I'm looking forward to a few more down the road.

    Now...the uncomfortable part. I've been diagnosed with PTSD, depression and anxiety. In all honesty, as long as I'm busy and engaged none of these are a problem. I've become very adapt at compartmentalizing things and putting things away. And then one day....I had nothing to do, but think. So all these things that I've had to ignore now are strating at me in the face. Being combat, watching people die, covering memorial service after memorial service, losing my support system as my career advanced, etc. It has had more of an effect on me than I'd care to admit. I'm 45 and I feel like a depressed teenager some days. Now, I have a wife and two kids.... they depend on me. I can't afford to quit or curl up in a ball and stop living.

    I've been waiting three months to start a job that I got when I first got out. Watching my bank account drain and not getting a phone call were kicks to the groin. This may come off as arrogant, but I've been a rock star in my field for a long time. I was well known by a lot of people in DoD service wide. I've been mentors at workshops, spoken at places like Syracuse and been asked to cover things that really did involve top secret type missions. To go from that to not getting a phone call back was heatbreaking. In short, I'm not a big deal anymore. I never thought of myself as egotistical, but I can't lie..... I really enjoyed being an important guy in the room.

    I'm not sure where I go from here. I start my job next week (finally), but I won't be teaching the class I helped build. When I left others moved into my spot and have made it clear they do not want to leave. They are still using all my lesson plans, handouts and teaching aides, but somehow thats there course now. Now, I've told the school I'm fine with that. I'm not, but I need a job. I have no doubt I'll be teaching that course again, but I now have former students that view me as some sort of enemy/competition. I get it. It is business, but I'm really raw emotionally and its hard not to feel a little betrayed by two people that used to sing my praises and called me their mentor. We met up today for lunch and both of them were so friendly and nice (not knowing that the third instructor they work with has told me every thing they say when I'm not around.)

    In short, at a time when I need people....I'm now in some sort of faux-competition and I have to play nice. I know all those other factors are just magnifying this situation, but I'm in a really bad place mentally. To be honest, being a Soldier gave me a lot of self-worth and motivation. Not being one is different. Being on the outside and not getting "the scoop" is tough. Everything I've worked for came 5 years earlier, but I was not prepared. In all honesty, I find the civilian world both fake and empty. I know 99 percent of you live in this world and have no clue what I'm talking about. It may even seem conceited. I don't think civilian life is "lesser" or petty. I really don't. I do find it has a lot of free time and posturing. In the service, if there was a problem I could go to any NCO and get it fixed. Not in the VA...not at my contracting company...not anywhere really. I get a lot of double talk designed to push me off to the next person who then pushed me off to the next.... all in some attempt to frustrate me and cause me to quit.

    This really doesn't lead anywhere. I'm still living it right now. I have the scary feeling what I won't be able to trust people like I did to the men to my left and right out on mission. In that world, trust is neccesary. In this new world, it just not there right now.


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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Sounds like one viscous circle for you. Looking at the positive side of things, you have a job to go to, which will eventually lead to you getting back into a good routine and as crazy as it sounds, will bring a bit of normality back for you. As hard as it is, that will have to be your focus point during this hard period.

    I can't pretend to know what it's like going through what you went through and seeing what you did, and I know it's a massive kick in the teeth the way others are behaving, but what stood out to me in your post was the fact you know you'll be back to the level you were previously doing things at and that is amazing!

    As with for anyone else, if you ever feel like you need to rant, rave and just get things off your mind, please let me know.
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    Maybe it's just me, but I feel like most would agree with this? "I find the civilian world both fake and empty. I know 99 percent of you live in this world and have no clue what I'm talking about" Or perhaps I'm too cynical or you mean something different than I'm thinking? I think 99% of the civilian world as you might call it is performativity to suit people's purposes which is unfortunate because it's hard to ever be genuine with other people, and it feels like most people aren't being 100% genuine to you. Just a ton of micro-politics.

    While I can relate to some things your experiencing, I obviously cant relate to it all. I'm glad you've got a wife & kids to give you the motivation to keep working through the current deluge of shittiness you're living in. I feel like you've probably already watched it but I think you might enjoy the show Community or even rewatch it. People in various stages of life trying to get a fresh start in community college and sort of going out of their way to be supportive of each other even though they're all pretty different. Unless it would make you feel like you're missing out, in which case nvm.

    Anyways, I'm also always here to talk if you need a distraction or a wall to bounce off of. I think if you're feeling down and with too much free time, you should focus on those hobbies you haven't been able to concentrate on (trying to get that comic book written, perhaps). Hope you feel better <3

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    Re: Mental Health Discussion

    Last night was a tough night for me. I was in a desperate state of frustration and fear. (This isn't uncommon with my anxiety)I use medical cannabis and last night was one of those nights I should have, but chose not too. I'm not a big fan of "crutches" and have always had this supreme faith in my ability to roll with adversity. I think its pretty clear that last night my emotions got the better of me. The numerous spelling and grammar errors sort of show how frazzled I was.Being away from my comfort zone and support system have really thrown me for a loop. I appreciate those who reached out. My head space is much better this morning after a good nights sleep, but I do think it illustrates just how up/down things like depression and anxiety can be. Just when you think you are turning a corner, you can have a bad night. Nothing triggered it, per se'. My mind just wandered into some bad ground and I got stuck there. This is going to be a challenge moving forward. I understand that, but nights like last night are tough obstacles.


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