A New Start

Tommy Platinum · 09-09-2008, 01:55 PM

Has there ever been a time in your life when you have just got so frustrated with your whole existence that you just want to start afresh and change everything? If so, talk about it here.

For me that time is now. I'm 21 and it's got too frustrating living like this, not going out much and never having a girl (or sex) and stuff like that, so when uni starts in 2 weeks I am going to live a completely different life. I will still try to get on here as much as I can but it won't be nearly as much because I will be out a lot of the time. I am getting a haircut, new clothes, and going out and talking to girls.

I am not changing who I am, just changing the way I live. Shyness has always been my problem but with so much determination that is an easy obstacle to overcome.

You ever felt anything like this? Any particular incident, or just general frustration and disillusionment, which forced you to change the way you live?

CM Drunk · 09-09-2008, 02:15 PM

Dont try to put too much pressure on yourself about girls and sex. Thats a surefire way to guarantee you wont get any, and also depress yourself.

Start off by determining to be more outgoing, and meet new people. Girls will come.

Tommy Platinum · 09-09-2008, 02:19 PM

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Dont try to put too much pressure on yourself about girls and sex. Thats a surefire way to guarantee you wont get any, and also depress yourself.

Start off by determining to be more outgoing, and meet new people. Girls will come.

Thanks for the advice. It is difficult not to put pressure on myself though because it is so important to me.

I need to make an effort with girls rather than just make an effort to be more outgoing in general. There is a balance though.

CM Drunk · 09-09-2008, 02:45 PM

Well...all I know is that if you go out and try to force yourself to meet girls, you will not be relaxed when you do, and might come off as either awkward, desperate, or something of the sort.

When you want to come across as cool and confident. In a non arrogant type of way.

Tommy Platinum · 09-09-2008, 02:47 PM

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Well...all I know is that if you go out and try to force yourself to meet girls, you will not be relaxed when you do, and might come off as either awkward, desperate, or something of the sort.

When you want to come across as cool and confident. In a non arrogant type of way.

I know but I was outgoing and went out a lot in my first year of uni and nothing happened. It is obvious that I need to do more than just go out. I need to make an effort to approach girls and stuff, but I need to seem cool and confident when I do it.

I guess its possible to go out of your way to meet girls without putting too much pressure on yourself.

neXus · 09-09-2008, 10:51 PM

Frustration and a sense of adventure made me change my life, but I couldnt change it in Europe so I moved to North America. I actually only let one person know I was going and it only took me two weeks to get things set up. After highschool I applied at Syracuse University on a student transfer, got my American visa, and I was off. The original idea was only to go to America for an education, but I found myself enjoying myself. I found out began to gain freinds and shit just went on from there. Most of my reasons for leaving are my own, but actually quite a few people know some them. I really didnt change who I was, I in a way discovered who I was. I discovers other cultures and found out who I was by tracking down my family tree in my spare time.

unn0129 · 09-10-2008, 01:32 AM

The only thing that really gave me a "new" start in life, was when I discovered computers. Before I got my first computer, I really wasn't doing anything with my life. However, when I discovered computers, how amazing and brilliant they are, I became addicted.

By far, computers are the greatest thing to have ever happened to me. I know I sound like a total nerdy douche bag, saying that, but computers have given me a passion, and a career in life that I love and would never give up.

I remember when I first began auditing Visual Basic, it was only a matter of time before I got 15 feet deep in programming. Since learning PHP, and MySQL, and Javascript, and C++, and C#, and Python, and … you get the drift. I began to realize that my sort of obsession/hobby could be my career, and or business. I never looked back.

Mrs Teddy · 09-10-2008, 02:03 AM

I'm kinda in a similiar position at the moment. A bit frustrated with life, but more so bored than anything. I'm a bit over my lifestyle... over the expectations, the blunt and straight forward life Im suppose to lead. Id like to be challenged with something different.... something other than simply working, going out, getting drunk and study. There's nothing exactly terrible about it.. its just kinda becoming a drag.

I think Im gonna move overseas for a bit at the end of the year, not quite sure yet.. try fending for myself for a little while. My friends are questioning why I'd want to leave... I don't have any massive ambitions for a certain career yet, im starting to lose motivation to the same things they do.. the whole social scene is repetitive and Im starting to find that staying home and watching a movie on some nights is more appealing then going out.

So yeah, contemplating something fresh ... saved up some money thats just sitting there in my account, will prolly get a bit more money under me before I start considering any real plans.

09-10-2008, 08:03 AM

I've heard people say you can't change a life that was given to you, but I strongly disagree because you pick the direction you head in whether you like it or not. Hopefully by heading off to Uni Tom, you can get yourself into a direction where your happy with yourself.

The balls in your court sense uni (school) is a great place to accomplish a lot of things you're looking to accomplish.

Tommy Platinum · 09-10-2008, 12:31 PM

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I've heard people say you can't change a life that was given to you, but I strongly disagree because you pick the direction you head in whether you like it or not. Hopefully by heading off to Uni Tom, you can get yourself into a direction where your happy with yourself.

The balls in your court sense uni (school) is a great place to accomplish a lot of things you're looking to accomplish.

I agree that you choose your own life, and I intend to find what I am looking for.

The bad (or good) thing for you guys is that I will have to step down as smod again when uni starts.

2 resignations will be ftw.
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