Am I just really weird?

Suffy · 08-16-2008, 02:49 AM

Is anyone else like me where you don't like social situations...like at all.

For me hanging out with one or two friends just walking around is fine, I don't like being around people I do not know. Like I'll meet someone once and then see them again because they are a friend of a friend but not know them and I don't want to be around them it makes me very uncomfortable, I don't know what I can and can't say, I don't know what they like to talk about or don't and how sensitive they are.

Also do not like big crowds, like at clubs too many people around me I just know I could never be friends with, bar is ok because at least I'm with my friends and others are bugging me.

Maybe I'm just weird but I like being alone.

Slim · 08-16-2008, 02:54 AM

im the same way. I dont go to clubs or go to parties or anything like that. I hang out with my gf, and only a few close friends and that is it. It just makes me very uncomfortable to be around a lot of people. I get anxiety with large crowds.

Number Nine · 08-16-2008, 02:55 AM

I know it's cliche as fuck but really, just be yourself and be confident about it. If you don't think you're good enough to be friends with them then they're sure as hell not going to think so. Fuck, I'd even say be over confident, let them know that they're not good enough to hang out with you. And do a shit load of cocaine, lots and lots of cocaine.

Suffy · 08-16-2008, 03:00 AM

See you say be yourself that's like the opposite of me I'm generally reserved and quiet and I like that but all my friends like to be outgoing and partiers and when I go out with them I always end up driving home thinking to myself, I'm I slam into this tree going 60 miles per hour will people think it was suicide or accidental.

Twist of lEMOn · 08-16-2008, 03:03 AM

Its called Social Anxiety Disorder Suffy
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Dakstang · 08-16-2008, 03:11 AM

I posted a thread like this last semester when we were going over these disorders in my Psychology class.

I think I suffer from this.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wikipedia.org

Avoidant personality disorder (APD or AvPD) or Anxious personality disorder (APD), is a personality disorder characterized by a pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation and avoidance of social interaction. People with avoidant personality disorder often consider themselves to be socially inept or personally unappealing, and avoid social interaction for fear of being ridiculed, humiliated, or disliked. They typically present themselves as loners and report feeling a sense of alienation from society.

People with avoidant personality disorder are preoccupied with their own shortcomings and form relationships with others only if they believe they will not be rejected. Loss and rejection are so painful that these individuals will choose to be lonely rather than risk trying to connect with others.

Avoidant personality disorder usually is first noticed in early adulthood, and is associated with perceived or actual rejection by parent or peers during childhood. Whether the feeling of rejection is due to the extreme interpersonal monitoring attributed to people with the disorder is still disputed.

Diagnostic criteria (DSM-IV-TR)
The American Psychiatric Association's DSM-IV-TR, a widely used manual for diagnosing mental disorders, defines avoidant personality disorder as a "pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, and hypersensitivity to negative evaluation, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by four (or more) of the following:

Avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection
Is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked
Shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed, ridiculed, or rejected
Is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations
Is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy
Views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others
Is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing
Avoidant personality disorder is often confused with antisocial personality disorder; clinically the term 'anti-social' denotes a disregard for society's norms and rules, not social inhibitions.

Symptoms
Hypersensitivity to criticism or rejection
Self-imposed social isolation
Extreme shyness in social situations, though feels a strong desire for close relationships[4]
Avoids interpersonal relationships
Feelings of inadequacy
Low self-esteem
Mistrust of others
Extreme shyness/timidity
Emotional distancing related to intimacy
Highly self-conscious
Self-critical about their problems relating to others
Problems in occupational functioning
Lonely self-perception
Feeling inferior to others

Number Nine · 08-16-2008, 03:12 AM

Hahah, yeah I guess the "be yourself" thing doesn't really work for everyone. Well then fuck it, that's just not your scene. If you don't like going to clubs and such then why bother? Let your friends go out and do that and you can do your own thing and chill in a smaller group of tight knit friends. The club scene isn't for everyone.

Brandon · 08-16-2008, 03:38 AM

Well.. let me ask you.. what is it about being around people that bothers you or scares you? They're just people. Do you think you're not good enough to be present in "their" environment?

Let me tell you. I'm probably one of the most egotistical people I know.. that's not to say I'm mean to people.. I'm not, I'm a very nice and approachable person, but there aren't many people in this world that I look at and say.. "wow.. they're better than I am"..

Fuck all that. If someone gives you a problem and says something you don't like.. punch them in the face. Remember that violence is your friend. Or just tell them to fuck their mother.

Suffy · 08-16-2008, 03:41 AM

I did see someone get beat up today but that's besides the point.

And I don't feel inferior or superior I just don't feel comfortable, I don't enjoy being around people I don't know. For me Friday night when I went to the bar with just my three male friends, we drank beer, played darts and watched football that was nice.

But tonight it was me, the girl I (dare I say) love (but hasn't shown any interest back to me in a long time), my friend and his girlfriend, my other good friend, then four people I didn't know, had those four people not been there I would have been down for anything but because they were there I couldn't force myself to partake in the action I left early I just coulnd't do it because there were four strangers there.

Swamps · 08-16-2008, 04:56 AM

I agree with Blitz 100%... violence is your friend!!!

Anyway, I myself prefer to be alone most of the times. I mean its cool every once in a while for me to hang out with a large group of people but, I still seldom hang with the larger groups due to the fact I can get easily aggitated.

Am I just really weird?

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