Interracial Couples

Joe Cool

Administrator

Now I know this maybe a touchy subject for some of you but it is one that is close to my heart and it’s one I’d like to discuss for a bit. If you can’t talk about it in a mature manner I ask you to hold your comments as it’s not what I am looking for.

How do you all feel about marrying someone from a different race?

I grew up in a large Southern based family who moved to California before I was born. Needless to say their conceptions of race and different cultures are not sentiments that I share. I consider my father and his parents to be very “old school� and close minded in terms of their thinking and dealing with possibilities.

Imagine my nervousness when first announcing to them that I was dating someone who was Filipino; much less that a good two years later that I was marrying her. I found the comments to range from shock to mild confusion. There were the usual comments on why didn’t a date a nice girl from where we live, etc.

My view is that you can’t change who you fall in love with. We are all individuals and we all have a set of values or attributes that attract us to someone of the opposite sex. My mother raised me to be “color blind� and I have never considered someone’s race to be a factor on whether I am attracted to them or not.

Granted there were cultural differences between me and my wife that took some getting used to. The Asian culture is very respectful and concerned with family above all else. Filipinos especially are very dependant on their families even through marriage and myself being an independent person, I had to understand that and come to accept that there will be times that my wife needs to speak to her mother about life’s situations. The key’s to a successful relationship with anyone of any cultures is always the same….learn compromise and learn that you will not change the other person no matter how hard you try.

Also I had to learn that when visiting their country I would be viewed as different. They consider a lot of Americans to be of a different mindset than them and not as concerned with their core set of values. This has changed a lot for me though having our children and being more accepted amongst the general family as family and nothing less.

So rambling aside, my question to all of you is do you have limitations in dating people? Do you look at color as one of the aspects in attractiveness or does that not factor into things? Also do you look down upon someone such as me who has entered into one of those relationships? I will tell you that I have heard comments from people that my daughters are two of the most beautiful kids they’ve seen so the old saying that mixed heritage causes weird looking children is wrong and misinformed.

We are all adults here and I am sure we can talk about this without judgment over someone else’s’ opinion.

Please discuss…

CM Drunk

My god-son is a mixed race baby. his father James is one of my best friends, and his wife is 100% Irish.

I have no problems with any type of marriage. People should be able to do what the hell they want, and spend their life with who they want. Just because some peoples morals/beliefs dont allow it doesnt mean they should be the laws of the world.

Beaker

Mixed raced children, inter-racial couples...who cares? I don't find race to be a huge issue when dating. Love is love no matter who it comes from.

U MAD

Dakstang

WC's Resident Redneck

I personally would not be involved in an interracial relationship. That is just my opinion on the subject.

I'm a good old rebel, now that's just what I am.
I won't be reconstructed and I do not give a damn.

Danny Diamond

Founder/Admin

I don't care what color the persons skin is.

There are really good, smart, thoughtful, beautiful people in every race.

There are downright shitty, stupid, ignorant, rude, loud people in every race as well.

I have only been with white women, but its primary because they were the ones that were always around. haha.

I think the hardest part about dating someone outside of my race would be the potential cultural differences with her parents, siblings, friends etc. It could get uncomfortable at points.

Also. I should point out that my brother is the definition of Interracial relationships. He seems to attract every flavor in the ice cream store except vanilla. haha. They are usually smoking hot too.

I think its just some peoples taste, and not for others. Its not a bad thing if you feel either way about this subject in my opinion.

A-Balla

Video Games Moderator

.... interracial relationships are about as normal as carlos mencia NOT being funny... which is all the time

fat_tony

I don't want to date a black woman.

Think what you will about that.

Suntan Superman

WC's Resident Samoan

i'm a mixed baby, I'm Samoan and Danish, go figure that. I guess. So I'm always dating outside of my race. I dunno, I find them to be fine. As Simon pointed out there are the same people in every race

Zar

A good person is a good person, regardless of their race, background, ethnicity, colour, whatever you want to call it. As long as they are a good person I could care less.

And please don't take this as an attack of anykind, but to the people who said they wouldn't could you please elaborate or explain why. I'm honestly just curious.

Shu

Interracial couples are fine, I think the problem is poorly planned couples regardless of race - too much rushing into marriage in general.

I would be no more or less likely to marry someone of another race, if I felt that she was the one.