Can You Be Friends With An Ex?

Tyler Durden

I'm still friends with two of my ex'es and. One of which I was engaged to for three years.

Unless you break up because one of you was playing away, it's not that difficult. Relationships can come to an end for all sorts of other reasons and, so long as you're both adults, why shouldn't you carry on being friends.

The only "weird" part from that, is for your next girlfriend/wife and, I guess if it's a problem for them and you want to be with them....then you have a decision to make!!

Gigglypuff

But how hard did you find it to cut off all the old feelings, cause surely you were still sexually attracted to them in some way. Im finding it hard to get past that, and just be friends with him. lol

The Phantom

I dont speak to any of mine anymore... mainly coz I've got nothing to say to them anymore. Not meaning that in a bad way, but that's just the way I am.

Tyler Durden

Maybe I'm just some "typical bloke" that was able to cut off that kind of emotion very easily!! Aren't women supposed to form more of an attachment the more you "get it on" and men supposedly get less??

Lol, I don't suspect that's right though.

Both of them were wrong relationships though. One of them, we were engaged for three years and actually did try and get back together at one stage, but we both knew the same reasons we broke up were still there and so it never happened. She's got an incredible sense of humour though, and (of course) I still fancy her.

Maybe it would be more difficult if we saw each other much, instead of just a few times a year, or if we weren't both married with children now. Maybe then some small part of me (easy tiger) would be thinking "she looks hot today, mmm yummy let's take a chance" but it won't and it can't. You just put that full stop in your mind and that's that. I' could say I've too much to lose, but in truth I just love my wife and kids too much so it "ain't happening"!!

Also it's a very different situation GP, you're single, so you don't have anyone else to either fill the void or to even use as a reason not to. All the while that's the case, then it's easy for you to think "maybe I should step back". But what's in it for you to do so, apart from sex? If it's just the closeness of a relationship you're missing, you're not going to replace that with a sexbuddy thing.

Gigglypuff

You know, i was just thinking the exact same thing while I had my dinner, lol. I guess I just miss having someone there for me and keep looking back to him, cause while we were together it was incredible.

Invictus

Well i'm new to the ex's game as I've only had one g/f and we've been together since I was 18 but we split as the start of January.

It's weird for me because we still see each other regularly and we have a really good time together but I have to watch what I say because I really want to get back together but I'm not sure about her and I don't wanna go and open my mouth and then not see her at all.

Mind you the second I see her with someone else will probably lead me to find the nearest airport and emigrate to the US so maybe I should say something after all. Who knows. I'm thinking the Laissez Faire approach works best at the moment.

Jackie Pies

I find (as Tyler briefly mentioned) that being friend's w/ an ex is hard when you're dating new people. People that date me know that my past if full of cheating and I can see why I'm impossible to trust.
People on here that know me know I was in a super long term 7 yr relationship until last summer when I started dating a new boy. I tried to stay friends w/ my ex b/c I still loved him (I just didn't feel like there was a physical relationship left) as a close friend. But it led to fights w/ my new boyfriend. I understand the new boy's worries. In the end it worked itself out as I became too busy for my ex and stopped hanging out w/ him. (Plus I really didn't want to risk anything physical happening w/ or being attempted by my ex as I knew he was still interested).

Psycho Diva

Agreed, does depend on how the relationship ended. If good, then you can be friends, but if badly then Hell no. Case in point, I saw my ex wrestle at a show last weekend and all I wanted to do was play human pinata with his head. So as you can tell I couldn't be friends with him at all, b/c that relationship ended badly.

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Joanne

shell stop gettin so drunk wen your out on the town, that might lower the urge to sleep with him! giving you a better chance at been friends lol

Gigglypuff

I drink like a fish, its not a case of drinking 'too' much!