Your First Girl/BoyFriend

Jayman · 11-06-2009, 09:02 AM

No, this isn't a knock on those of you who never had one (I promise!)..but yesterday got me thinking when I took a look at the facebook page of the girl who was my very first girlfriend in 7th grade..

She's now pregnant with her 4th kid at 27 years old, she is a housemom, never went to college, and is married. Other than being married, I'm pretty sure we are now different in every way. And it got me thinking..what would my life of been like if I stayed with her? Would I be the guy at home with 4 kids? Hell, I don't even have 1 kid, and the thought is only now starting to enter my mind.....

So, tell us about your first girl/boyfriend. How old were you, how did you meet, what were the circumstances leading up to you two dating? What kind of stuff did you do together?

For example, me and Angela started dating midway through 7th grade. She was in my Speech class, and no joke..she had her friend hand me a written note saying: "Would you be my boyfriend? Check "Yes" or "No". Haha! I checked yes and gave it back to the friend, who gave it back to her. Because we were only 12 or 13 at the time, our 'dates' involved only talking on the phone for 3 hours every night after school. We never even got together because we lived too far to bikeride over to eachother, and we never ended up kissing. One day, I got into class and she was looking kinda scrubbish so I broke up with her right in class.

Pretty lame looking back on it..maybe you have a more interesting one?

Daddy · 11-06-2009, 09:46 AM

My first girlfriend I haven't seen since she moved away our freshman year of high school. We dated for like 4 months. We were both 12 and lived fairly close to each other. I don't know what she is like now, where she lives or even what she did with her life. Although I have thought about her from time to time.

We did the normal boyfriend/girlfriend stuff at that age. Talked on the phone for a few hours every night and making out which never really went any farther than kissing. Although her boobs were the first boobs I ever touched and seen.

I don't remember why we broke up though. Kinda sucked. I was heartbroken because she dumped me.

xChumChumx · 11-06-2009, 12:42 PM

My first girlfriend was kind of a funny thing. This was at the young age of 15. She was a total druggie, love ICP and any act related to it, and was probably one of the biggest whores in her school. She was also very desperate for a nice guy to date and I happened to never have dated anyone before. Her name was Angie Fuhri.

It was funny because I was totally like heads over heels for her. She was just this girl who wanted me and it was a first. So she would like something and I would give it to her. This made me lose anything that I bought at that period in time. It eventually became relevant to me that I could do better and that she wasn't really someone I could picture myself with in the future.

This other girl at my school started flirting with me and everything so I started dropping hints that we should break up. I told her best friend, who happened to be one our first date, and he passed on the word. She broke up with me. The last time I saw her was when I dump the girl I picked over her, I called her up and we hung out for a bit. Trying to see if the old "spark" was there, but really I was just desperate for some company. Never saw or heard from her again. Although last I knew she was dating some like 24 year old guy who was highly involved in trafficking drugs. Oh, the irony.

dxanman · 11-06-2009, 12:58 PM

This is gonna make me sound like a pathetic loser, but oh well! I didn't have a whole lot of experience with girlfriends from school or around where I lived. When I was younger I did most of my dating online. My first real "girlfriend" I met through my friend, who was dating my eventual girlfriend's sister (also online).

For a while, chatted and got to know each other before losing contact with each other. After a few years, when I was in college, I got back in touch with her and things started to take off once again. I decided to drive down to see here while she was on Spring Break and hang out. So, I stayed at her grandparent's house - where she lived - and spend the week with her family and her sister and her new boyfriend. Things were great and I didn't look forward to heading back home. Eventually, I had to though.

A couple days after I get back, I call her and she tells me that she wants to see other people which made it seem like the previous week had no effect on her. So, for the longest time, I'm heartbroken but finally get over it. About eight months later we start talking again (as friends) and try to keep some sort of friendship going. On her birthday, I call her after work, and she tells me that she's engaged and going to move to Missouri. So, once again, I'm slightly heartbroken and want nothing to do with her. And, to this day I haven't said a single word to her or really even thought of her (outside of writing this).

Jayman · 11-06-2009, 01:12 PM

How does this thread have 30 views and only 3 replies?? Cmon people!! Share!

Anyway, dx -- her grandparents were pretty cool to let essentially a guy she's never met stay a week with them. My parents (or grandparents) would've freaked out.

Back in the day when I was in chat rooms and talking to girls there, we were always inclined to want to write eachother using regular mail (keep in mind, this was like...1996) But my parents were always so adament about me not giving out our home address to strangers. Of course, I still did it but made sure to always rush to the mailbox first when the mail came so my parents wouldn't see the letter from my chatroom friends.

Ah, those were the days..

dxanman · 11-06-2009, 01:20 PM

Yeah, they were pretty cool. But, I always got the sense that the didn't really want me to be there. Needless to say, there wasn't a whole lot of time spent at the house unless it was to sleep. It was a fun week, but it went to hell after that.

Things are a lot better now though: married 3 years, no kids, one dog. I'd like to think that having that happen was one of the best things that could've happen. I have no idea what life would've been like had her and I stayed together.

Raoul The Duke · 11-06-2009, 01:27 PM

I'm still friends with my first girlfriend. She's dating my best friend now so we see each other all of the time and always have a great time. Some people say you never lose feelings for the first girl you ever fell for but any feelings I have for her now are completely platonic, and I couldn't be happier for my best friend (he ended a 6 year relationship at the beginning of the Summer so while I usually don't like my friends dating my ex-girlfriends I'm happy he's moving on, he was a mess for a while.) It's funny, in high school I wrote a song for her and my band did it for our first demo, and though I lost it long ago she still has a copy of it. We were out drinking the other week and she busted it out, I was ready to piss my pants laughing at how cheesy it was.

Swamps · 11-06-2009, 06:00 PM

Well my I was with first real girlfriend (not counting the two flings or elementary school g/fs before this relationship) when I was fifteen. She was three years older than me and we made it last for three years on and off. Anyway, she is actually one of my best friend's sisters and, I had known her for a few years before we hooked up. We hooked up when she asked me to her Senior Prom and after that we started dating.

We broke up on Valentines Day in 2003 when she threw one of my Timberland boots at me which actually hit me dead on in the nose. Talk about my bloody valentine.

Last August, we were both at a friend's funeral and not once did we make eye contact or speak with one another. The bitch can rot in hell for all I care.

dxanman · 11-06-2009, 06:49 PM

It's amazing to hear about how good/bad everyone's past relationships have gone. The stories give a little insight to the person, but it's a little weird to see how differently things go for everyone that has posted.