| Can you admit when someone of the same sex is good looking?
Background story: There's 2 gay guys in the same department I work. Along with 2 gays, there's 4 ladies, 2 of whom are pregnant, and then 3 straight guys including myself. Or 2 more gays that are in closet, and 1 straight guy. You get it... there's 2 gay guys!
Anyhow, I mentioned something about how someone was a pretty good looking guy, and I was like, "Yo gay guy number 1, you'd agree, right?"
And he did. Afterward, one of the straight guys was like, "Dude just admit you're gay!"
I'm not gay. But I'm not at all a homophobe either. I have no problem with gay people. Do I get grossed out when I think about the thought of two guys kissing? Hell yeah. But the two I work with are cool, and understand where the societal limits are. Or so it seems. Maybe I've just made it rather obvious that the last thing I want to hear about is them doing anything with another guy.
After the other "straight" guy called me gay, I openly asked if he could ever say another guy was good looking. And I pointed out there's a total difference between being attracted to someone, and thinking they're good looking. Of course he just straight up refused, and said he could never even consider another guy good looking. I don't see how this can exist -- I think even subconsciously we indiscriminately rate other people. I'm probably not going to hang out with someone that looks like a scrub.
Those are some random thoughts. |