| Re: Can Things Work Without Attraction?
This happened to me this week. I had been seeing a guy for a few months, and kind of liked him in the start, but it quickly wore off. He was hot, and super nice, we loved the same music, but he just had no sense of humour and it didn't work. He didn't get sarcasm, and I more or less only communicate in sarcasm.
Because he had no sense of humour, there was no spark. He was just TOO nice, and was too happy about everything. Every movie we saw was good, every song he heard on the radio he liked, he liked all of his classes, he liked every person he met, it was maddening.
I made an effort to somehow make him angry at me, to see if anything at all bothered him. I went away for 3 weeks and didn't call him. I ditched him numerous to hang out with my friends instead, and he knew I went to the bar. In the end, I made the classy decision of getting my boss to write down for me what to say, and then I dumped him. And he didn't even get mad at that. He apoligized to me for not being good enough to me. After he took me out all the time, paid for everything, was a doll in everyway.
In conclusion, I am a huge bitch. Also, you need a spark, or the relationship won't work. |