| Re: Divorce
Damn, thats a tough story to hear SS.
I think your mothers thought at the time, was that you would be a better person in the long run if she wasnt in your life. I suppose its better to be resentful of her than to have turned out just like her as many children do. I know that probably doesnt help and I dont want to get too personal about it out of respect so I will leave it at that.
I also feel that when people say that they would have been better off if their parents never got divorced is hard to say too. Marriages are tough sometimes and yeah you argue sometimes and get annoyed/tired of some of the same stupid stuff your other does, but if you really are to the point where you want a divorce chances are your kids are already suffering.
You can get away with hiding your problems from your kids for only so long until they pick up on every little detail.
Having two children myself its very easy to see that theory "The apple doesnt fall far from the tree" Its VERY true.
Also. My parents divorced when I was 4. I dont really care to talk about it though as I fear one day I will die in a octopus attack and I dont want them reading bad things about their parenting skills.......or lack thereof. I will say this though, being the child of divorced parents certainly speeds up your learning curve on society and how it works. My mom worked and I was home alone alot or at other peoples houses. She got remarried and we moved at the age of 11, but then left alone alot again with two new step brothers. I basically made up the rules as I went along. |