| haha, nah, marriage is pretty unlikely for me either way. I've seen too much divorce and it's not that I'm scared of commitment, it's that I just don't care about a ceremony or a title or whatnot.
as for power of attorney, very good point and yes, that can be a problem- esp w/ an amendment that just passed here in KS in April- which to sum part of it up can make it very difficult for domestic partners to have power of attorney. that is really the only thing I might worry about for Craig and I and is really the only reason we might change our minds. although it's more a problem for Craig as I should have my sister to make decisions for me if I were in a coma or what not. so if I were to change my mind, that would be the sole reason.
we don't plan to have kids. Craig's known that I feel this way since he met me and I've known that since I was a little girl. all the other girls had baby dollies they played w/. I had books. if I were to get knocked up accidentally, I would likely abort if it happened in the next 5 years, after that I don't know how I would feel about keeping it. but I would never intentionally plan out/ attempt to have children.
my mother used to be upset over these decisions, but she's gotten used to it, or at least has learned that she has to accept them. Craig's parents seemed upset at first, but when you're getting a Pseudo daughter in law who is going to be a lawyer, it's pretty hard to complain too much....
my father on the other hand applauds my decisions and often tells me he wishes he'd made the same decisons- wh/ is kinda like hearing you were an accident but he's always told me he wanted my mom to abort me so it's not like the you're an accident thing bugs me anymore. you get used to it and you realize that lots of kids are technically accidents- most people just don't tell the kids that they told your mom to abort.
(on a side note, my mom tricked my dad, telling him she was on birthcontrol when she wasnt'- I think that's sick when women do that and so I can't blame him for the way he felt years ago)
when people see that Craig and I have rings (which we wear as symbols to tell other people that we're taken and to not even bother asking) they say oh you're married. I say no. when I tell people that I'm not interested in marriage or children, they all say, "oh, you'll change your mind" much like bulldog says.
but whatever. I've felt this way since I started thinking about my options. I've never felt any desire for either marriage or children, it's just not and never has been a driving force in any way for me.
lots of women plan out every little aspect of their wedding before they even meet the guy. people tell me I'm nuts or even scared for avoiding marriage. whatever, how could I be scared of commitment when Craig and I just bought a house together- that's pretty committed right there.
I think those girls w/ their big day all planned out are the crazy ones. |